A Shift to Love

Two ways

Two ways

Two ways

 

I

magine a group of football players huddled in front a video of themselves playing a game. Notice their coach in the room with them. They’re studying the plays and learning from what they observe. “Oh, look at that! We needed to focus on defense here!” or “She needed to take two more steps there before throwing the ball…” This is a very high-energy, enthusiastic application of what happened to see how they can proceed going FORWARD.

Now, this is very helpful. This is very loving and compassionate. Because they are using the information to get better.

What would not be helpful is for certain team players to be judged and berated because of what happened. Or made to feel bad, shamed or criticized due to what they were watching. “Coulda, woulda, shoulda.” That won’t help them or the team improve. That would shut everyone down and make them self-conscious. This is a very low-energy, degrading application of what happened. It dwells in the PAST and creates barriers to anything better being done in the future.

Consider these two relationships.

Choose the one you want to have with yourself and others.

Practice that one.

 

In lovingkindness,


If you enjoyed this article, you can find a version of it in my book, Living the Zen Life: Practicing Conscious, Compassionate Awareness (Volume One).

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If you enjoyed this article, you can find a version of it in my book, A Shift to Love: Zen Stories and Lessons by Alex Mill.

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  Alex Mill trained in a Zen Buddhist monastery for nearly 14 years. He now offers his extensive experience to transform people’s lives and businesses through timeless Zen principles.

He is the creator of three powerful 30-day programs, Heart-to-Heart: Compassionate Self-Mentoring, Help Yourself to Change, and Your Practice, as well as the online Zen meditation workshop, Taming Your Inner Noise (now offered as The FREE Zen Workshop).

Alex has also written seven books on Zen awareness practice. The latest are entitled A Shift to Love: Zen Stories and Lessons (Get it for FREE here) and the 3-book series Living the Zen Life: Practicing Conscious, Compassionate Awareness.

He is a full-time Zen Life Coach who offers guidance and life-changing support to his private clients worldwide. Book a call.