Online Retreat


Heart-to-Heart: Compassionate Self-Mentoring is a powerful 30-day online retreat that will quiet the inner critic and introduce you to compassion instead!




o you want to start something new, change a habit, learn a skill, be more successful, move through life easefully, and express yourself authentically?

If so, you’re probably aware of how challenging it can be, BECAUSE, let’s face it, it seems easier to:

  • Be distracted by social media

  • Eat foods that are less than healthy

  • Skip exercise more than we should

  • Drop helpful practices like meditation

  • Miss time with the important things (and people) we care about

  • And spend that time feeling bad about the past and worrying about the future

Do you do this instead of really taking care of yourself? Or being powerful in your personal and professional life?

Why is that?

It’s the voices.

You’ve noticed them, haven’t you? Voices that say things like, “You’re too busy to do that course you would love to do.” Or, “There’s not enough money for you to afford that.” Or, “You’ll get to it later… tomorrow… or you’ll do it next time,” and then never do it.

Have you heard voices like these? If so, jot some of them down below. Get them out into the open:

Please note: There’s nothing wrong with you for hearing voices. It’s normal!

Everyone has voices running in their heads. And if you know someone who says that they don’t, they’re just not aware of them.

Here’s the deal…

These voices are what you need to address before you will ever be deeply free or happy.

That’s a pretty bold statement, I know. But listen…

These voices create anything from mild dissatisfaction, to worry, to fear, to overwhelm, to distraction, to stress, to confusion, to feeling bad, to depression, to anxiety, to (you get the picture!)

And there’s a great deal of momentum they’ve generated over a lifetime. Which is why it’s so hard to go up against them.

You may have tried in variety of different ways. Like through drugs, alcohol, job or career change, doing something less taxing, ditching “toxic” friends, being busy, taking a course on mindfulness, yoga, or meditation, reading a self-help book, going on retreat, or having weekly massages and spa treatments just to “get away.”

But if you’re like anyone else I’ve ever known, you may have noticed that even though these helped short-term, they didn’t really solve anything. The book inspired you, but then that inspiration faded. Or you had an amazingly peaceful experience at a retreat only to find that all your problems and stressful issues were waiting for you when you got home.

It’s like the entire experience got erased. Like it never happened and you’re back to square one.

Which can be so frustrating!

And then in a highly charged moment at work, driving on the road or with a loved one — all your knowledge, training and good intentions disappear! You totally lose it and fly off the handle.

Then what do the voices say? “Look at you! You know better! You claim to be so ‘together’, yet you’re no better than they are…”

And you get to feel bad.

These methods are not ineffective. HOWEVER, they are not going to address the REAL underlying issue.

And the REAL ISSUE is…?

The REAL ISSUE is listening to and believing an INNER SELF-SABOTAGE SYSTEM of limited thinking, distraction and feeling like you are not enough.

“So what’s the answer? What do I do?”

Learn a practice that will turn your INNER SELF-SABOTAGE SYSTEM into an INNER SELF-COMPASSION SYSTEM. This new INNER SELF-COMPASSION SYSTEM will transform your life TODAY.

Hundreds of people have learned how to do this by participating in my extraordinary online retreat…

Heart-to-Heart: Compassionate Self-Mentoring
A guided journey that will lead you, step-by-step, from inner noise to inner peace in 30 days.

By the end of the retreat, you will have a clear map of YOU and how to navigate to your greatest potential in every moment. That’s my promise.

How does it work?

Very simply.

  1. Click the big, green “Start Your First 5 Days” button to begin.

  2. You will then be guided through a process of registering on my site so you can access the daily assignments.

  3. The first 5 days of the online retreat will come to you complimentary so you can experience for yourself how the retreat works. You’ll also get your own accountability calendar to track your progress.

  4. On day 5 you will be given the opportunity to pay the registration fee to finish the retreat — or not. There is absolutely no obligation to you.

  5. If you choose to invest in yourself, the remaining 25 days of assignments will continue to come.

  1. Read (or listen to) the simple exercises found on my site. Do them and pay attention to everything that arises before, during and afterwards. This is a profound awareness practice that will show you HOW you do what you do.

  2. Share your experience of doing the exercise by commenting in the online forum.

  3. You can also read other people’s comments and my responses to them (there’s an entire library of great exchanges from which you can gain insight and wisdom).

  4. I will come along as soon as possible, approve your comment and reply to it with guidance and support. This is direct coaching from me.

  5. Repeat 6-8, until you complete the retreat!

Here’s one of the things people love about this experience: You can do it anywhere in the world. The retreat is all online, so that means as long as you have access to the internet, you can participate fully. You won’t need to drive to a retreat facility, you won’t need to take time off from work, and you won’t need to be in a room full of strangers.

If you need to take a few days off to get away, no problem. I’ve built in an extra 15 days to access the retreat so you can come and go. Because let’s face it, real world situations can arise to pull you away. I’ve factored that in.

Some people are worried that they might not have the discipline to do this work. If you’re one of those people, then please allow me to reassure you:

Many different types of folks from different backgrounds have done this retreat.

Stay-at-home parents, single working parents, teachers, entrepreneurs, students, coaches, business professionals, yogis, personal development junkies and leaders. If you have a simple daily practice (like exercising, reading, making smoothies, etc.) you will be able to fit the retreat’s daily exercises into your schedule and be successful with them. They only take approximately 20-40 minutes to do.

Please watch this short video testimonial from Sherry Welsh, a single mother and business professional, who was worried about not being able to do this work given her other commitments:


If you’re asking yourself, “Who is Alex Mill and why should I bother listening to him?”

That’s a good question! I spent 14 years training in a Zen monastery. During that time and since, I have helped countless people overcome the voices in their heads and have taught them how to lead empowered lives from the inside out. I am the author of three books. I offer workshops, public talks, group training and one-on-one Zen Life Coaching to people here and abroad.

I’ve done, and do, this inner work myself and it has saved my life. This is the practice I learned while I trained at the monastery. It taught me how to short-circuit the mental tape loop in my head.

What I’ve done is I’ve taken this practice and created a beautifully orchestrated, step-by-step course that gives it structure and an objective. That objective is to teach you how to remove the inner critic from the driver’s seat of your life and put YOU — the wise, compassionate, powerful YOU — in charge!

If you’re interested in hearing about other people’s results, then please read the 29 testimonials on this page from grads who have shared their experiences of doing this online retreat with me. Here is one:

Heart to Heart: Compassionate Self-Mentoring
Heart to Heart: Compassionate Self-Mentoring

I am usually skeptical about self-help programs because I have tried so many things in the past that just didn’t work. I am amazed at how much I have changed — both personally and in the way I handle my business. I feel so free and empowered! I learned so many helpful techniques that were easy (and worked!) that I can use anytime I need to push through whatever I feel is holding me back.

This course really changed my life for the better. I was in a pretty low and difficult place with a lot of “stuff” on my plate and many “voices” in my head — none of which I was obligated to entertain because this course helped me sort it all out and get me on MY path to happiness!

I will definitely do this online retreat again and tell others about what Alex offers. His guidance and encouragement throughout the 30-days is amazing! Thank you for offering such an awesome online retreat!

— Kelvin, U.S.A.

From Kelvin, three months later:

A crazy thing happened. As I started clearing out all those voices, I started moving ahead in my business and things are really taking off. It is amazing how the voices are giving up! I have so much energy and excitement and drive; I am just going after whatever I want and just keep moving forward! I moved into a much larger studio and am hosting art classes and teaching yoga! I keep your book in my studio to share with others when the conversation develops and always recommend people visit your site! It is just such an incredible transformation in myself! I still have “those days” from time to time, but I honor them and move ahead!

(Click here to read the other testimonials)


“Whatever you’re meant to do, do it now. The conditions are always impossible.”
~ Doris Lessing

WARNING: The one big danger with this retreat is that the very INNER SELF-SABOTAGE SYSTEM the retreat was designed to dismantle will attempt to interfere with you doing it! The voices will prevent you from registering (“not now, later…”) and they will attempt to stop you once you begin. They will judge you along the way and throw obstacles along your path. I wish it was otherwise, but that’s the nature of the beast. If you’re up for the challenge, then take a deep breath in, call up your courage and take the plunge. I am here to support you from Day 1 to Day 30, should you choose to do this for yourself.
I’ve said everything I want to say about Heart-to-Heart: Compassionate Self-Mentoring. If you participate in the retreat fully, at the end of 30 days you will walk away with a practice that will continue to support you being your best self ALWAYS — from Day 30 and beyond!

One of the side benefits to doing this for yourself is that not only you, but the people in your life, are going to reap the rewards.

You will be the change you wish to see in the world.

Imagine becoming the role model for how to be compassionate with yourself. To consciously make that your guiding principle.

Isn’t that something you would like to pass along to those around you? To the children and the people you love?

We all know that inner abuse, outer abuse and negativity don’t work. Because if they had, in all the many centuries of people inhabiting this planet, they would have by now.

You know that love is the doorway.

Now will you take the first step through?

Heart-to-Heart: Compassionate Self-Mentoring

Green-Check 30 daily exercises sent to your inbox
Green-Check An online support forum with access to guidance
Green-Check A printable accountability calendar to keep you on track
Green-Check 45-day access to the retreat (in case you need extra time)
Green-Check A library of interactions between Alex and former retreatants

$427 (pay later)

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe,
deserve your love and affection.”
~ The Buddha

Alex Mill and Zen Life Coaching, LLC offers no representations, warranties or guarantees verbally, in writing or otherwise regarding specific results. Results for each person may significantly vary. No one represented has been paid or otherwise compensated. None of the testimonials or reviews on this website have been scripted and are true and accurate to the best of the knowledge of Alex Mill and Zen Life Coaching, LLC.